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8 Beautiful Love Lessons Bridgerton’s Kate & Anthony Could Teach Penelope & Colin

We’re inching ever closer to Bridgerton Season 3 and Penelope and Colin’s love story. Kate and Anthony could have a spot in the brand new season, too, so we’ve imagined what the enduring couple may need to say to the romance newbies.

You don’t need to change to be loved.

When Anthony was courting Edwina, it was clear she was falling in love with a version of him that didn’t actually exist—because round her, he worked hard to return across as what he believed a viscount should be. But it was Kate who all the time got the unfiltered version of him—the person who was temperamental, easy to rile up, overprotective, and deeply passionate—and she or he fell head over heels for him just the identical. Similarly, Kate never felt the necessity to change (despite the indisputable fact that others within the Ton sometimes found her overbearing and too fiery) just because she didn’t see herself as a viable option—and ultimately, it was she who completely consumed Anthony’s heart.

You can’t control who you like.

Anthony believed wholeheartedly that love was something that may very well be controlled. He believed he could simply turn off his feelings and select the one who gave the impression to be the perfect fit for him (in his opinion, anyway). He never desired to have feelings for Kate and always fought against them, even going thus far as to propose to her sister out of desperation. But ultimately, Anthony realized that emotions aren’t so easily turned off—and Kate learned the same lesson as she fought her feelings for her sister’s sake. We all know the way that turned out!

Someone will be all the things you would like on paper but not actually be what you would like.

Early on within the season, Anthony rattled off his requirements for a wife to just about everyone who would listen—he wanted someone pretty, someone proper, someone who was beautiful and suitable for childbearing. He wanted them to find a way to talk multiple languages and be a master of literature. He had the thought of the right woman and really found it—in Edwina. But here’s the thing: Edwina measured up perfectly and still couldn’t capture his heart. It’s easy to set high standards and consider that anything less is settling, but love doesn’t work like that. In the top, we’re more likely to fall for somebody who actually doesn’t check all our boxes—and it won’t matter to us, because despite the fact that they won’t be the idealized person we thought we wanted, they’ll be the person we love most of all.

Don’t judge someone too quickly—because deep down, they could be exactly what you would like.

Both Anthony and Kate each had a habit of judging one another a bit too quickly. Kate overheard Anthony explaining his requirements for a wife and immediately decided he was shallow, misogynistic, and vapid. Anthony saw the way in which Kate reacted when she was attempting to protect her sister from him and thought of her irritating, overbearing, and insolent. However, it isn’t until they get to know each other that they realize each of those misconceptions come from the indisputable fact that they each were acting on their shared sense of duty—Anthony to offer his family with an acceptable woman to administer their affairs and Kate to guard her sister from the boys who will hurt her and ensure a snug life for her (very like Anthony had with Daphne, in truth). Instead of being the opposites they immediately assumed they were, they were actually kindred spirits—it was just difficult to see that after they had different goals in mind.

Love should challenge you—and alter you for the higher.

When Daphne said Anthony needed someone to challenge him, she had a degree—not only because he personally found thrill within the challenge, but because he needed someone to actually make him reconsider his values and his perceived duties. That’s what Kate did for him—she tore apart his more misogynistic thoughts, made him realize his feelings of obligation were making everyone miserable, and made him reconsider what he really wanted out of life. She didn’t just intellectually challenge him, she made him query all the things he thought he knew to align himself with the person he desired to be—an individual like his father.

You should be someone’s first alternative.

Okay hear me out: It’s easy to think about Kate because the second alternative when Anthony got together together with her after his doomed wedding with Edwina. But despite courting her sister first, it’s clear that Kate all the time takes precedence in his mind. When the Sharmas arrive at Aubrey Hall, he approaches Kate first (much to Daphne’s confusion), and throughout the season, he always seeks her out and admits that she’s the one he can’t stop excited about. It’s clear from an emotional standpoint, Edwina was all the time second place for him—a fact Kate can’t wrap her mind around, even when he proposes to her (which she believes he’s doing out of obligation). It isn’t until he confesses to her at the top that she realizes she was all the time his first alternative—and it’s only then that she allows herself to decide on him, too.

If you would like true love, you’ll be able to’t be afraid to go after what you would like.

After Anthony and Edwina’s doomed wedding, Anthony tells Kate, “Your sister is braver and wiser than us each. She had the courage to act on what she sensed between us. And here we’re, standing perfectly still, having felt it for months.” Look, each Kate and Anthony knew they wanted one another. It was never a matter about what they felt. But they always put roadblocks in their very own path, self-sabotaging what may very well be a lovely relationship because they felt they didn’t deserve what they really wanted. Instead of just acting on their feelings, they always torture themselves over it—until finally, at the top, they finally allow themselves to be comfortable. Never be afraid to go after what you would like—because that’s where happiness will be found.

And you’ll be able to’t let the fear of losing love stop you from truly loving.

Due to the sudden death of his father (and seeing how the grief completely destroyed his mother), Anthony is set never to place himself in the identical situation by taking love out of the equation altogether. Anthony believes that by avoiding love, he can avoid the heartbreak that usually goes hand-in-hand with it. While it will possibly be tempting to guard ourselves from the hurt we consider is inevitable, what can we lose in the method? Is it value never experiencing true love? The perfect things in life are definitely worth the risk—because as Violet Bridgerton told Anthony, if given the prospect, she would decide to love her husband all another time, even knowing the heartbreak she would later endure. Life won’t ever be devoid of pain, so don’t destroy your possibilities by making it devoid of true happiness, too.

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