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Mean Girls Have Been Around for a Long Time

I saw the trailer for Mean Girls being promoted. Twenty years after its original release, it’s now a musical adaptation promising to be a production extravaganza with easy-to-remember tunes and spectacular choreography. It got me pondering that we do have a fascination with mean girls, the favored bullies who make life miserable for others.

People have contradicting feelings toward mean girls. Just consider the Mean Girls movie set on a campus. The stereotypical mean girls are the cheerleaders, walking around of their cute uniforms. They are the highschool’s cohesion generators. Many admire them, but many hate them too. They are admired because they typically are good-looking. They have the facility to get what they need and even influence some administrators. But in addition they make life difficult for the underdogs.  

In a 2018 article she wrote in Psychology Today, Katie Hurley said, “The ‘mean girl’ narrative is so ingrained in our culture that many consider it a ‘rite of passage’ of sorts on the subject of surviving girlhood.” That means one must grin and bear the existence of and maltreatment by these power-tripping girls and pray they get out alive! And if you happen to suffer from poor mental health from constant bullying, well, you may seek treatment to “recover from it.”

Kirsten was the guest speaker at a women’s event. She admitted to exhibiting mean girl behavior up to now. She said, “I created pain in others!” This aggression resulted from losing her mom when she was only 12. Unable to properly process her grief from her loss, and with no mother to guide her to womanhood, she began watching how other young women and girls behaved. Her young mind was impressed by the attractive, popular, mean girls at college. They got one of the best of every part and everybody. She decided that becoming considered one of them was her key to happiness. No one needed to know that she was in pain. She would cause the pain!

“There’s a fancy web of insecurity, anxiety, and conditioned attitudes that underlies the mean girl stereotype,” a Newport Academy article said. This means the power-tripping mean girl is essentially like every other teenager—an immature individual going through self-esteem issues. There’s quite a lot of growing up and navigation happening inside this person’s body, physically, emotionally, mentally, and socially. And left to her own whims and fantasies, she will decide to be a part of the “queen bee” group and make life a living nightmare for another person to mask her own difficulties. 

The Mean Girls of the Bible

As Solomon says, “There is nothing latest under the sun” (Ecclesiastes 1:9). Mean girls have been in existence for 1000’s of years. Some of them have grown into women, yet never learned to shed their ugly behavior to do the proper thing. Let’s have a look at a few of them.

“Ahab the son of Omri reigned over Israel in Samaria twenty-two years. And Ahab the son of Omri did evil within the sight of the Lord, greater than all who were before him. And as if it had been a light-weight thing for him to walk within the sins of Jeroboam the son of Nebat, he took for his wife Jezebel the daughter of Ethbaal king of the Sidonians, and went and served Baal and worshiped him. He erected an altar for Baal in the home of Baal, which he in-built Samaria. And Ahab made an Asherah. Ahab did more to impress the Lord, the God of Israel, to anger than all of the kings of Israel before him” (1 Kings 16:29-33). 

Here’s Ahab, who was influenced by his wife, Jezebel, to show away from the One True God of Israel to change into an idolater. Knowing how much God hated graven images and their worship, Ahab provoked his own King.

Enter Elijah, God’s prophet, who got here to Ahab to let him know that God spoke of a drought. During the dry years and while Elijah was away, Jezebel had killed most of God’s prophets aside from the 100 hidden away by Obadiah (a person who feared the Lord and oversaw Ahab’s household) in caves.

In the third 12 months of the drought, there was an “accidental” meeting between Obadiah and Elijah. Elijah, again, was bringing the Word of God to Ahab. This was the message: “You have abandoned the commandments of the Lord and followed the Baals. Now due to this fact send and gather all Israel to me at Mount Carmel, and the 450 prophets of Baal and the 400 prophets of Asherah, who eat at Jezebel’s table” (1 Kings 18:18-19). 

God made it known who He was and that Elijah was His mouthpiece through a miraculous battle. And all of the prophets of Baal were slaughtered by Elijah:

“Ahab told Jezebel all that Elijah had done, and the way he had killed all of the prophets with the sword. Then Jezebel sent a messenger to Elijah, saying, ‘So may the gods do to me and more also, if I don’t make your life because the lifetime of considered one of them by this time tomorrow.’ Then [Elijah] was afraid, and he arose and ran for his life…” (1 Kings 19:1-3). 

Perhaps cowering in fear of Jezebel’s wrath, Ahab decided that it was best to interrupt the bad news of the slaying of Baal’s prophets to his mean-spirited wife to fire up her anger. Then, there’s Elijah who allowed a bully’s message to extinguish the fireplace of God’s victory. He succumbed to becoming a mean girl’s emotional and mental hostage.

Then there’s Herodias and her daughter’s story. They used their influence to send someone to die.

“For Herod had seized John and certain him and put him in prison for the sake of Herodias, his brother Philip’s wife, because John had been saying to him, ‘It is just not lawful so that you can have her.’ And though he desired to put him to death, he feared the people, because they held him to be a prophet. But when Herod’s birthday got here, the daughter of Herodias danced before the corporate and pleased Herod, in order that he promised with an oath to provide her whatever she might ask. Prompted by her mother, she said, ‘Give me the pinnacle of John the Baptist here on a platter.’ And the king was sorry, but due to his oaths and his guests he commanded it to be given. He sent had John beheaded in prison, and his head was brought on a platter and given to the girl, and she or he brought it to her mother.” Matthew 14:3-11

An adulterous relationship was confronted by John and the involved parties didn’t just like the message. The mean girls’ team of mother and daughter worked together to execute an ideal death plan. “Off with John’s head!” was the special request to the king. And then there was no more voice of righteousness to convict Herod and Herodias of their affair.

Evil Begets Evil!

Why is it so necessary to be the highest dog? Kirsten, the guest speaker, said she used to scope out the room to seek out the present reigning “queen” and strategically planned her fall. Kirsten needed to be the alpha female and did every part in her power to make it occur!

A mean girl’s desire to regulate every part begins when her life is in chaos! Jezebel’s prophets of Baal were dead, and she or he needed to punish Elijah for this. Herodias didn’t need to be reminded of her sin, so she needed to remove John from the image. James said, “Sin when it’s fully grown brings forth death” (1:15).

Let’s get up and see the reality! Mean girls usually are not value emulating, even in the event that they are portrayed as the favored people in society and are sometimes celebrated on TV, film, and social media! Mean girl motivations are mistaken, they usually have to be corrected before they destroy others. Just consider the influence of Jezebel to her husband and Herodias to her daughter. Not good in any respect! 

The Apostle Paul said, “Take no part within the unfruitful works of darkness, but as a substitute expose them. For it’s shameful to even speak of the things that they do in secret. But when anything is exposed by the sunshine, it becomes visible, for anything that becomes visible is light. Therefore it says, ‘Awake, O sleeper, and arise from the dead, and Christ will shine on you’” (Ephesians 5:11-14).

In the top, mean girls can even destroy themselves. Just watch the ending of the Mean Girls movie, if you happen to get the possibility. The Apostle Paul encourages us to “look rigorously then how [we] walk, not as unwise but as smart!” while there continues to be time (Ephesians 5:15).

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Luisa Collopy is an creator, speaker and a women’s Bible study teacher. She also produces Mula sa Puso (From the Heart) in Tagalog (her heart language), released on FEBC Philippines stations. Luisa loves spending time along with her family over meals and karaoke!

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