“To affect the standard of the day, that’s the very best of arts.”
Henry David Thoreau
“Don’t judge every day by the harvest you reap, but by the seeds you plant.”
Robert Louis Stevenson
Some days are great, higher than you’ll have expected whenever you rolled out of the bed within the morning.
Quite just a few days are only good and OK days.
And then we’ve got the opposite ones. The days that just wind up being bad.
What do you do then? I used to allow them to drag me down and I often wound up having not only one but a few bad days due to whatever happened.
Nowadays I do things a bit otherwise. And this week I’d prefer to share how I do this.
Here’s 21 suggestions and habits that help me to show a nasty day around. Most of the time I exploit greater than one among these habits to do this.
I normally start turning my day around with shaking things up through the use of my body in a roundabout way.
The very first thing I almost at all times do is to simply breathe. I breathe deeply through my nose through the use of my belly. I focus only on the air stepping into and out for 1-2 minutes.
This calms my body and mind.
2. Do an influence pose.
Then I sometimes follow that up by striking what Amy Cuddy calls an influence pose for about 2 minutes (take a look at her TED talk, it’s really good).
The simplest strategy to strike an influence pose is to rise up confidently like Wonder Woman or Superman along with your legs apart, head up and your hands in your hips.
It might sound odd but it may really change how you are feeling in a fast and positive way.
3. Work out.
Another habit I use several times per week to shake things up through the use of my body is to lift free weights in my home. I do that for about 30-40 minutes and it helps me to release tensions and worry.
And after I’m done I feel more powerful, focused and energetic.
Just by hugging someone quickly you may feel safer and more optimistic again.
And an embrace that lasts 30 seconds or a minute or more can recharge your batteries and release an unexpectedly great amount of stress and tensions.
5. Pet an animal.
If you do not have anyone close by to hug during a nasty day then pet your cat, dog, bird etc. It has a really similar calming and stress reliving effect.
And it makes your animal companion comfortable and that in turn will boost your mood too.
6. Find a latest viewpoint.
The body suggestions above often work well to vary my perspective by altering my emotional state and energy level.
Sometimes something more is required though.
So I start looking more actively for a greater and more helpful viewpoint on the situation at hand by asking myself a few questions.
Three of my mostly used questions that help me with which are:
- Will this matter 5 years from now?
- Who cares?
- What is one small motion, one small and practical step I can take to start out turning at the present time or situation around?
7. Go out into nature and luxuriate in all of it.
Leave your couch or workspace for slightly while.
Talk a walk and just soak within the crisp autumn air. Enjoy the birds singing and the colours shifting.
Just being on the market in nature tends to make it easier to think optimistically again and to start out searching for practical solutions or upsides.
Or you may simply be there within the moment fully and let your thoughts about for instance work rest for some time (after which afterward you may return to that with fresh eyes and a calmer mind).
Another upside is that the fresh air, sunshine and exercise during this 20-30 minute pause in my day also recharges my energy.
8. Accept what’s.
One thing that sometimes work higher than absolutely anything is solely to just accept what’s at this moment.
To not deny or attempt to push away negative feelings or thoughts that show up. Even though it’s possible you’ll feel an impulse to achieve this.
Instead, just accept what’s at once.
The thoughts and feelings inside you.
And just be with them fully and observe them flowing through you.
By doing so that you will not be giving up.
No, because whenever you accept what’s then you definitely stop feeding the negative thoughts in your mind with more energy. And so that they grow to be weaker.
They begin to lose their grip on you after some time after which they float away. And so you are feeling more open and are capable of think more clearly again.
9. If you made a mistake then don’t let your inner critic take over.
If you’re having a nasty day due to a mistake you’ve made or a failure you’ve had then don’t let your inner critic take over.
Instead, as soon as you hear it start berating you in your mind with negative thoughts about you and your value do that:
Say a stop phrase. In your mind, say or shout, something like: Stop!
Or: No, no, no we will not be happening this road again!
Then, after you’ve silenced your inner critic ask yourself this:
How would my friend/parent support me and help me in this example?
Then simply do things and seek advice from yourself like she or he would.
This will provide help to to feel higher again and to maneuver forward to resolve and improve upon the situation. And it’s a significantly better use of your time and energy than beating yourself up.
10. Tell yourself: Just for today!
I learned this one from Brian Tracy probably 10 years ago.
And on this case it may provide help to avoid falling back into those destructive responses to a nasty day that will have grow to be a little bit of a habit for you.
So what you do is that this, tell yourself that:
Just for today I’ll X!
And on this case you may replace that X with for instance “not beat myself up a couple of mistake!” or “give attention to solutions and motion as a substitute of procrastinating!”.
The nice thing about this one is that you just only make a small commitment to do things otherwise today.
Then you may return to your old ways tomorrow should you like. But it’s possible you’ll not wish to and maybe you as a substitute start constructing a positive spiral of positivity for the entire week.
Or you return to your old ways sometimes and sometimes you employ this tip to handle a nasty day in a more constructive way (which continues to be an improvement in comparison with doing things the old way 100% of the time)
11. Get outside of your personal head by adding positivity to another person’s life.
One of the only ways to get outside of your personal head and out of sinking deeper and deeper into your personal negative thoughts about your day is so as to add positivity to another person’s life.
That focus outward and on another person can drastically shift your perspective around for the higher.
You can for instance:
- Help someone out. With as an illustration moving houses, with planning for an upcoming job interview or by offering some advice that has helped you in an identical situation that your friend is in now.
- Just listen. Sometimes people just want someone to really listen for slightly while as they work out their very own situation and possible solutions.
- Be kind. Give a real compliment for something which means so much to the opposite person or something she does that is commonly taken with no consideration.
12. Take 5-Quarter-hour to read some motivational quotes.
This is something I very often do to vary my mood and viewpoint and to seek out some latest motivation.
Here’s 6 of the my favorite and hottest posts about quotes that I even have put together over the past 10+ years:
13. Journal about your day.
Writing down your thoughts and feelings about your day can provide help to to mentally step back a step or two from what is going on and to see things with more clarity (and from a wider perspective).
Doing this has helped me again and again to not construct a mountain out of a molehill and to start out finding solutions to my current situation and or at the very least a small step or two that I can take to start moving in the correct direction.
14. Talk it over with someone to seek out that latest perspective.
This is a bit just like journaling and it’s in my experience among the finest ways to seek out a latest perspective on a negative situation.
Because just letting your thoughts and feelings about your bad day bounce around in your head tends to exaggerate things and may make you are feeling an increasing number of powerless.
But letting those emotions and thoughts out helps to vent all of that built up inner pressure and it lets you begin to either work out the situation and what to do about it for yourself as your friend just listens.
Or the 2 of you may have a conversation about it and together give you a plan – or the beginning of 1 – for what you may do to enhance upon the situation you’re in.
15. Take fun break for 10-Quarter-hour.
Few things can so easily relieve stress and inner tensions and let you see things from a lighter perspective as laughing and having fun.
So I often take fun break and watch, read or take heed to something that makes me laugh. Like for instance a favourite episode of The Simpsons, a few online comics I like (comparable to the Oatmeal and Poorly Drawn Lines) or a little bit of a standup show on Netflix.
16. Find something to stay up for.
Find something to stay up for or to reward yourself with after you’ve done what you might want to do today, irrespective of if that’s boring work or a physician’s appointment that you just’re nervous about.
Like for instance that movie you’ve been looking forward to seeing coupled along with your favorite take out food.
17. Take a shower.
My wife sometimes recommends this one to get a little bit of a restart. And I often find that it really works surprisingly well – considering how little effort it takes – to mentally reboot a day that has not begun well for me.
18. Clean up.
I find that having a shower after which following that up with spending 5-10 minutes decluttering my workspace or home and organizing things makes me feel more on top of things again and more ready to start out anew and maintain what I want to do to enhance my current situation.
So try that combination or mix that shower with one among the opposite suggestions on this post to get an excellent higher effect.
19. Tap into gratitude.
When you’re having a nasty day otherwise you’re in some form of bad situation then it’s possible you’ll wander off in just seeing the negative things in your life.
A strategy to counter that and to interrupt out the pessimism that may suck out a lot of your energy and trap you in inaction is to ask yourself just a few questions that provide help to to tap into gratitude.
So ask yourself these 3 questions:
- What are 3 things I can be glad about in my life today?
- Who are 3 people I may be thankful to have in my life and why?
- What are 3 things I can be glad about about myself?
These things don’t should be big things. They could just be the great weather, that you’ve access to scrub drinking water, that you just flossed today or that your friend made you laugh yesterday.
20. Look back and rejoice how far you’ve got come.
Another thing that is simple to lose sight of whenever you’re down and also you’re having a nasty day is what you’ve actually achieved to this point.
The steps you’ve taken, the obstacles you’ve overcome and what you’ve learned.
Reflect on that whenever you’re having a nasty day to seek out a wider perspective and to see that this in the future is just a short lived step back and nothing more in your journey.
And take just a few minutes to understand and rejoice what you’ve done to this point to maneuver yourself towards your goal or dream.
21. Remember: sometimes a nasty day will just be a nasty day.
Now, once in a while, even should you use several of the techniques above – one after the opposite – you won’t have the ability to show a nasty day around.
That has been my experience at the very least.
Because irrespective of what habits you adopt, life won’t ever be perfect, positive or awesome on a regular basis.
And this website was never about living some form of life that only exists in an ideal dream anyway.
This website is about replacing unhelpful habits with higher ones.
It is about raising the odds of times where you may handle things in a greater way. In your regular, on a regular basis life. And when larger things occur.
Because that may make an enormous difference.
But still, life could have natural valleys.
And a nasty day will sometimes just be a nasty day. And that’s OK. That’s life.
But the interesting thing is that this: should you accept that life is like this sometimes – and let go of the dream of perfection – then you definitely’ll create less suffering for yourself and life will grow to be lighter, simpler and happier.
So in the long term there’s an upside even to a nasty day that it’s possible you’ll not have the ability to show around.