Over ten years ago, I received a book about boundaries. I read it, decided it didn’t apply to me, and passed it on to a friend without hesitation.
Since then, I’ve purchased one other copy, read more on the subject, and realized just how much I would like this message.
Poor boundaries contributed to a number of pain in my life. I took on the burden of the world, which was never mine to bear, and it crushed me.
In my limited and simplistic understanding, I believed boundary-less people said yes too again and again when asked to serve: whenever you’re asked to bring meals, teach a category, organize a bunch, go here, go there, and do all of the things. If you possibly can’t say no and limit your activity, you struggle with personal boundaries.
Living with healthy boundaries is so rather more than saying no to the subsequent thing someone asks of you.
Personal boundaries must do with internal structures that belong to you and never other people. Your feelings, thoughts, actions, attitudes, desires, opinions, and beliefs are yours. Each of us has our own. Boundaries help us define what belongs to us, especially the things which impact our heart, mind, and soul.
Hopefully, these ten signs will provide higher awareness if that is an area you struggle with.
Once we all know, we will grow.