God’s Word has some great advice on find out how to handle conflict, and it doesn’t speak about “sinking one other person’s warship.” But most of all, we’d like to approach it intentionally and proactively.
P – Schedule a peace conference
Simply put, don’t ignore the conflict, go to the person you may have a conflict with and speak about it. But planning a peace conference must first begin with prayer. When we now have a conflict with an individual, before we check with them, let’s go to God for wisdom and clarity.
“Test me, O God, know my heart and search my thoughts” (cf.Psalm 139:23POUND).
It is healthy to spend time with God, asking Him to assist us understand our mistakes and see our own hearts clearly. When we finally see what role we played within the conflict – what we selfishly did or said that hurt, which helped to cause the conflict – half the battle is over. After we now have repented before God and received His forgiveness, we’re entitled to express regret from others and extend it to others with a pure heart.
“If you do not forget that your brother has something against you, go immediately to make peace” (cf.Matthew 5:24).
The longer you wait, the harder and more courage you have to to take step one.
E – Feel yourself
“Be stuffed with compassion for each other, loving each other with a young heart and a humble mind” (1 Peter 3:8).
What does it mean to feel sorry for an additional human being? Don’t just plan a peace conference together with your husband, wife, co-worker, teen, work partner, or friend; attempt to be empathetic to them once you sit right down to speak about it.
“Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but humbly consider others higher than yourself. Each of it is best to take care of not only your personal interests, but in addition the interests of others. Your attitude must be similar to that of Jesus Christ: who being in nature itself God didn’t regard equality with God as something to be grasped, but he became nothing by taking nature itself a servant made within the likeness of man. And being present in appearance to be a person, he humbled himself and have become obedient to the purpose of death, even death on a cross” (cf.Philippians 2:3-8).
Paul’s instructions are clear: put selfishness aside, it’s the predominant reason for conflict. To consider others higher than ourselves – not those that are right, who treated us right, who deserve it – simply others. Put yourself of their place; attempt to feel what they feel and see from their perspective. We must intentionally step out of our mindset and check out to enter the opposite person’s world, like Jesus when he got here to earth.
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